Thrivers: The Surprising Reason Why Some Kids Struggle and Other Shine
Dr. Borba says Thrivers are made not born.
Even before the pandemic, children were stressed, lonely and overwhelmed. According to Dr. Borba, we have focused so much on testing and being competitive, we have lost touch and not taught children how to be human.
When I read this….it caused a moment of pause. It is a profound statement and one I believe to be true.
Here is the good news. Character strengths can and must be taught to children. Character strengths are as important as academic success.
Dr. Borba Lists Character Strengths As:
The book is filled with proven strategies you can easily teach children from preschool through high school.
I like how Dr. Borba gives us ideas on how to weave these skills into our everyday lives. We don’t always need worksheets or lectures.
By reading this book, we learn how to find meaningful ways to nurture the seven character strengths by modeling, discussing and pointing them out.
I do hope you add this book to your “etiquette” library.
How to Establish Yourself as an Etiquette Coach When First Starting Your Business?
Etiquette Coaches Communicate with Their New Audience:
Start with social media. This is absolutely free! You can start a Facebook page and post your thoughts and observations. As you read articles that are relevant, comment and post them on your social media platforms.
This is a lifestyle business. As you are out with your children or grandchildren, post about your adventures out in your everyday life.
Etiquette CoachesOffer to Write Articles for Media Resources
You are an expert that can provide valuable information for teachers, parents and leaders in your community. Look for ways to help by contributing articles to local parenting magazines, online news, and printed media. Pitch your story to local news stations.
You know parents are so happy and interested in having their children grow up kind, smart, happy and well-adjusted adults. Educators are happy to have you share not only your passion but your knowledge within their schools virtually and in-person.
Think about what you have in common with your audience when writing the about page/bio on your website. Communicate your commonalities when you are introducing yourself to others. This takes practice and intention. Write down your thoughts and ideas.
Etiquette Coaches Draw from their Previous Experiences
All of our current licensees have varied backgrounds. We have teachers, engineers, grandmothers, mothers, human resource managers and event planners. You have transferable skills that make a difference. Trust me, the world needs what you have to offer.
Etiquette Coaches Show Authority by Recognizing Their Value
I tell my licensees not to give away their expertise for free. However, there are times when starting your business, where offering a class pro-bono is at times a good idea. It gives you experience and at the same time helps an organization or a non-profit.
Shift Your Mindset
You are the expert. Think of yourself as one. This tips is absolutely the most important one on this list. You must feel like an authority on etiquette issues from the inside.
Conversation skills are one of the most popular topics to teach as etiquette expert.
Parents want their children to have this as a life skill. Teachers see the need in the classroom – both virtually and in-person.
Corporations are shocked their new hires are lacking this skill.
Schools are re-opening. As an etiquette expert waiting in the wings, are you prepared? Do you know how to teach conversation skills? Do you have ideas on how to role-play this with students from preschool to high school?
The human connection has never been so important. We need it. Children need it. Many of us have taken it for granted.
Many schools are re-opening. Parents are looking for ways to supplement their children’s education. Yesterday, I was able to connect a parent looking for a private instruction for her seven-year-old daughter to one of our licensees.
Teachers and schools are looking for outsiders to provide content and programming either virtually or in-person.
Isn’t it special to have someone be fully present with you- especially with all the distractions we have today? To have a conversation with an adult or a child is something to behold these days…a conversation without interruptions or to look down at our phone.
My most popular topic when teaching business etiquette in the workplace is The Art of the Human Connection. The art of having a conversation, is a lost “art”. We are so consumed with social media that often we are so buried in it we miss out on so many opportunities. Often, it is the first request I have from a human resource director to discuss the basic skills of conversation to their team.
Take time to have conversations. Life is fuller when you have this social skill. You actually become interesting. A child learns so much about life when they hear adults engaged in a conversation.
Eye contact: This is a social skill that is so very important. By making eye contact, it shows someone that you are interested. It sends a message that you are confident. Point this out to a child. Explain why this is important. Take the opportunity to talk about confidence and how it feels. Get on their level. Literally! Get down on your knees if necessary and make eye contact with them.
Teach children to listen to others: Another important social skill is to listen. Tell them it is alright for there to be silence when having a conversation. This is the time to practice sharing-sharing the space to tell ideas and experiences.
Ask questions: By asking questions, you show others that you are interested in their experiences. Ask a child questions. Explain to them that you are having a conversation. Encourage your clients to try this around the family meal.
Phone skills: The Wall Street Journal had an article about answering the phone. Remember when we were growing up and we took messages for our parents? With smart phones, this most likely is not happening. This was a great way to teach conversation skills. It is still important for children to know how to answer a phone and converse. Practice with them during your manners class. Turn on your speaker phone so your children can hear your conversations.
Read a story. After reading a story, talk about it with your students.. Did they like the story? What was their favorite part?
On Saturday afternoon, I had such a lovely conversation with a potential licensee.
We spoke about all the things….etiquette, her background, why manners matter, why children need them today….etc. etc. etc.
Actually, to me it was the perfect way to spend part of my Saturday.
She asked a really good question, “which training should I choose”? We offer “live” video sessions or an in-person event….one that is private and shoulder to shoulder.
And my answer to her was this: “how do you like to learn”. When you are considering any type of training, whether it is to learn a new computer skill, creative writing techniques or learning a new language, you must consider your personal preference.
My conversation with her is the inspiration for this post.
I could hear her first choice in her voice. She came alive when we started talking about the in-person/immersion option.
In my eyes, all of my licensees are special. THEY make the experience beautiful, charming, valuable, eclectic and interesting.
Keep reading if you want to discover more about our trainings and why we choose certain locations.
Etiquette Certification: Location Matters
Let me explain. I love beautiful things and experiences, and I believe location matters.
That is why, when an in-person event is scheduled, I go all in. I personally am involved with the planning.
I am proud to let you know I choose the most beautiful and special places to hold our trainings.
A bed and breakfast inn in the south was such a stylish and eclectic space and walking distance from museums and a bustling city life. I read about it on Goop.
Each afternoon, the inn sat out lovely trays of petite fours and tarts. Iced and hot tea was always available. The weather was pristine and we sat outside on the covered porch for some of our training.
Etiquette Training at The Ritz Carlton
We are so lucky to have this establishment in the US. A few weeks ago, I trained a new licensee in both our children’s and business etiquette programs. What a delight she was!
The Ritz is unparalleled in service. If you want to experience excellent customer service, then go to a Ritz Carlton…anywhere!
My favorite line is from The Ritz and they say it so well – “it’s my pleasure”.
I have used The Ritz many times when we have our trainings over afternoon tea. Their scones are the best ever and their service is like no other.
If you want to experience white glove service, then choose a city that has a The Ritz Carlton.
Etiquette Training and Certification at Tiffany’s in New York City
The most coveted reservation, Breakfast at Tiffany’s is one to cherish.
We suggest you commit to training for the first 30 days of your certification. After this is completed, we ask you to set up on-going consultations as you need them. This allows you the time necessary take action on many of the marketing tasks suggested in the training.
2. How long is the licensing term?
The term of use is for three years. After three years, you have the choice to renew.
3. Is there a charge for the on-going support (for three years)?
Absolutely not! This is included in your fee.
If you choose our “live” video training option, we suggest you spend an entire month with us…via video, learning the materials and the process.
Most choose to have their training once a week, others want to batch it in closer increments. That is up to you.