My heart goes out to children. I often wonder what is happening to their ability to connect. Teaching manners in the classroom have never been more important.
What is it like for them to build relationships with their friends at the moment? How about with other adults outside of their parents?
Many children have dealt with this for years as we have become so accustomed to our lives orbiting around our digital devices.
What is in store for this generation that has been robbed of social interactions now for almost a year and tied to devices to make somewhat of a human connection?
Over the years as I have worked with parents, I often hear the comment “they will listen to you more than me”- meaning, when teaching manners, children listen to a third party. For some reason, this is the way of the world.
Finding moments or dedicated time to teach manners in your classroom is actually very easy. Most likely you are using good social skills all day every day in the classroom (virtual or in-person).
Manners and Life Skills such as:
Eye contact: When using eye contact, point out what you are doing. As students use good eye contact, let them know you noticed.
Respect: Point out respectful behaviors as you see certain actions (helping others, expressing gratitude, holding the door, saying “good morning”)
Conversation skills: We have multiple conversations a day. Recognize students when they engage with each other. Conversation skills are becoming a lost art. This skill is the cornerstone of building friendships.
There has been a focus at the school level in many states to focus on the whole child.
Teachers love using our lesson plans to teach manners in their classrooms. The lesson plan objective along with suggested dialogues and handouts are included.
This book will help you teach social skills in your classroom.
Last weekend I was in our local bookstore. This title, Luli and the Language of Tea by Andrea Wang, jumped off the shelf. I walked right to it.
Yes, the cover is bright and inviting but once I opened the book and read a few pages, I knew I had to add to my resources for Preschool children.
Use This Book to Make a Human Connection
And this is why: this book speaks to the many cultures that make up the classrooms across the world. This book also addresses how to make the human connection.
If you have been following us, you know I am a big believer in this topic. Why not start them young – in Preschool?
“The playroom was quiet. Luli couldn’t speak English. Neither could the others. All around the room, children played alone.”
The story goes on to tell about Luli’s plan. She has a fat-bellied (don’t you love this description) teapot with matching cups.
Luli passes around the tea cups to all the children in her class. And everyone speaks a different language- however, they all speak the language of TEA!
This story is heartwarming! I encourage you to get your own copy and share it with your students.
Luli uses a “fat-bellied” teapot to connect with her classmates. This type of teapot is easy to find. You can use paper cups to pass around lemonade or water. Let your students practice pouring tea for each other.
During this time, have them engage in conversation with their classmates. You can read them the story of Luli while they are having “tea”.
How do you teach your students to have a conversation? Isn’t it special to have someone be fully present with you? To have a conversation with anyone, an adult or a child is something to behold these days…a conversation without distraction.
My most popular topic when teaching business etiquette in the workplace is The Art of the Human Connection. The art of having a conversation, is a lost “art”. We are so consumed with social media that often we are so buried in it we miss out on so many opportunities. Often, it is the first request I have from a human resource director to discuss the basic skills of conversation to their team.
Take the time to teach your students how to converse! Life is fuller when you have this life skill. You actually become interesting. A children and teens learn so much about life when they hear others conversing.
Eye contact: This is a social skill that is so very important. By making eye contact, it shows someone that you are interested. It sends a message that you are confident. Point this out to your students. Explain why this is important. Take the opportunity to talk about confidence and how it feels. If your students are six or younger, get on their level. Literally! Get down on your knees if necessary and make eye contact with them.
Teach them to listen to others: Another important social skill is to listen. Tell them it is alright for there to be silence when having a conversation. This is the time to practice sharing-sharing the space to tell ideas and experiences.
Ask questions: By asking questions, you show others that you are interested in their experiences. Ask a student questions. Explain to them that you are having a conversation.
Phone skills: The Wall Street Journal had an article about answering the phone. Remember when we were growing up and we took messages for our parents? With smart phones, this most likely is not happening. This was a great way to teach conversation skills. It is still important for children to know how to answer a phone and converse. Below you will find a link to the article.
Read a story. After reading a story, talk about it with your students. Did they like the story? What was their favorite part?
Teaching manners in the preschool classroom: During the preschool years, manners are a critical element of a child’s education. This is a time of discovery for the preschooler. Teaching manners in the classroom and at home needs to be routine. Preschoolers pick up on a teacher or parent that is polite and at ease in life. Keep reading as this article is about teaching manners in a fun and creative way for both teachers and parents.
Empathy: We have the ability to feel what other’s are feeling. This must be taught with intention in the preschool classroom. When the situation arises in your classroom, offer praise when someone shares or understands with another student’s feelings are hurt. The ability to empathize is the foundation for respect and self-respect.
2. Please, Thank You and Excuse Me: These magical words are the basis of good behavior and communication skills. In your classroom, use these words often and when a child uses them, praise the child. The preschool years are the perfect time to start with basic conversation skills. Teaching when to have a conversation and how to ask questions is important.
If they absolutely must interrupt, show them how to say “excuse me”. Tell them how it makes others feel when they interrupt.
3. Meet and Greet: Start the day with “good morning”. Many schools around the world, start with a handshake. This is a big part of our culture in the US. It is how we greet people. A handshake shows leadership and confidence. Teach this. Start while they are young.
4. Basic Table Manners: Wow, is this one is important! The basics: chew with your mouth closed, do not talk with food in your mouth and place your napkin in your lap. Serve food that requires a fork. Teach them how to hold a fork correctly.
5. Using Manners in Public Places: Expand a child’s horizons. Take them to museums, out to the park and to parties. Teach them to use their “indoor voice”, not to complain or whine, and to follow the group while on a school activity.
6. Party Manners: Being social is fun and so important at this age. In your classroom, have parties and teach them many of the life skills mentioned above. You can teach greetings, how to share, how to have a conversation and basic grooming skills.
We are a full service company offering lesson plans for preschools to teach manners and social skills. Our programs are taught around the world in the preschool classroom. As an early childhood educator, you understand how important it is to teach your students how to behave appropriately in different social situations. Any child, no matter how young, is capable of learning basic etiquette and social skills, such as greetings, introductions, table manners, saying please and thank you, listening when others are talking, and showing respect to others. The Manners To Go™ Preschool curriculum makes it fun and easy for you to teach these skills to your students and prepare them for success in elementary school.
Life Skills | Manners | Character Education | Social Emotional Learning
10 Tips to Teach Manners in Your Classroom
Now more than ever, teaching manners in your classroom is critical. Children today are looking to learn more about building relationships and creating community.
At Manners To Go, we believe that all children deserve to learn the social skills that will help them grow up to become healthy, happy, successful adults. Here’s your chance to make it happen. We owe it our children to teach them good manners.
Eye Contact
It is amazing what happens when you bring this to a child’s attention. Eye contact is the basis for feeling and showing that you are confident.
Greetings
What a great way to start the day. Greet your students every morning or end the day with “good morning” or a “good bye”. Make eye contact and smile.
Introductions
The best way to teach introductions is to organize a role-playing activity for your students. They can pretend they have never met each other. Teach them to say “hello, my name is”.
Posture
Sit up straight. Stand up straight. Having good posture shows that you are confident and interested.
How to Hold a Fork
Holding a fork correctly is important and shows that we have good table manners.
Napkin in Your Lap
Teach your students to put the napkin in the their lap during recess or lunch.
Conversation Skills
Do your students know how to start or carry on a conversation with each other or with someone they don’t know?
Be Fully Present | Put Down the Phone or Device
Isn’t it a beautiful gift when someone pays attention to what you are saying and shows they are interested?
Deference | Respect
Allowing someone to go first or opening the door. This is deference. This is respect. Model this in your classroom.
Greetings
Say good morning or good bye to your students or co-workers
Teach Manners in Your Classroom
Good Manners Set the Stage for Future Success
As an educator, you know how important social skills are for a child’s success. Children who are polite, well spoken, and attentive to others find it easier to get along with their peers and make a positive impression on the adults in their lives. As a result, more opportunities come their way, laying the foundation for future success in life.
Yet too many children are not being taught proper manners or other valuable social skills at home. Which means it’s up to us as educators to equip them with these important life tools – and help them grow up to be responsible, caring, successful global citizens.
Now you can help students improve their behavior in as little as 10 minutes a day… a week… or month.
Most likely we already share something in common. We believe that teaching children manners, character and social emotional skills are very important.
Manners To Go™ is a full-service company for those choosing to teach manners to children. You can make a difference. All children and teenagers deserve to feel what it is like to be confident, and use good manners out in the world.
Manners To Go™ is taught in public, private and charter schools around the world. The New York Times, Parents Magazine and Fox News have all featured Manners To Go and the many benefits of teaching social skills to children.
Whether you are an educator who wants to teach it in the classroom or someone who is looking to become trained and certified, we provide all the solutions.
My name is Lisa Richey, and I am the founder of Manners To Go™ . This brand has given me the honor of teaching manners to thousands of people around the world. The journey has taken me from Portland, Oregon to the Middle East. I believe that manners are not about judgment or rules. Manners are about self-interest. It really is about how using good manners makes you feel on the inside.
Manners should be a fundamental step in every child’s learning. It’s never too early to start learning manners! Teaching manners to preschoolers is powerful for parents and children alike! It helps children navigate their own social world and grow into healthy, happy adolescents and adults.
Without proper manners knowledge, children can find themselves isolated from others. Not knowing how to act or communicate can cause separation. This could hinder their social and work lives as they grow older.
Why Is Teaching Manners To Preschoolers Important?
Why should you worry about teaching manners to preschoolers?
The reasons are endless. But learning manners is a very important stage in childhood. As a preschool educator, you understand how crucial preschool is for students’ development.
Children learn necessary skills at a young age so that they can continue to grow those skills as they age. If they don’t have the opportunity to process those skills, they could be missing out on key lessons that they’ll need later in life.
Teaching your students how to behave appropriately in a classroom helps transfer those skills to real-life (outside the classroom). Students need to learn good manners and social skills at a young age. This can help them grow into healthy, well-adjusted adults.
Your job is to help them navigate the new world of manners. By showing them appropriate actions and words for situations, you’re setting a positive example for their future.
Learning Good Manners Makes Life Easier and More Fun For Preschoolers
Teaching manners to preschoolers can be fun for them. And as their educator, you should make every opportunity a fun, learning one!
Children are eager to learn. They like to copy the actions of adults because they are naturally curious. It’s your job to take that curiosity they have and redirect it to learning manners.
What are manners for preschoolers?
Basic manners start with greetings and how to introduce themselves. Preschoolers are at the age where they are learning how to interact. They want to make friends. By teaching them how to politely greet one another, you’re introducing a new, engaging way for them to communicate.
Respect is another big lesson that children learn at a young age. They should all learn to treat others the same way they would like to be treated. With a basic understanding of respect, children are more open to learning how to gain and show that respect.
You then have the opportunity to talk about the magic words, like please and thank you. You can also talk about the process of actively listening when someone is talking to them.
Teaching Manners To Preschoolers Makes Them More Polite and Well-Rounded
No one wants to deal with rude children. As a preschool educator, you deal with the trial and error of child behavior. But it doesn’t have to mean dealing with impolite behavior 24/7.
By giving lessons on manners, students have the opportunity to change their behavior. Many children act out in inappropriate ways because they don’t know how to communicate or show their feelings.
You can set a polite and appropriate example for them! Teaching manners to preschoolers gives them the resources they need to effectively (and graciously) communicate their feelings.
When children learn the cordial ways to interact with others, they are more likely to grow into considerate adults. As polite adults, they’ll be more well-rounded…which can open up many opportunities for their social and work life.
You’ll Give Your Students A Number Of Incredible Benefits
The best thing about teaching manners to preschoolers is that there isn’t only one benefit. As a preschool educator, you have so many opportunities to teach children so many different lessons. They have more of an opportunity to soak in all of the benefits of good manners.
Here are some qualities you can expect your students to exhibit when you teach good manners in your preschool classroom:
Increased sense of self-confidence
Higher self-esteem
Empathy for others around them
Understanding etiquette and social skills in the classroom.
Pride in showing their parents what they have learned
How To Start Teaching Manners To Preschoolers In Your Classroom
I often hear from preschool teachers about how easy it is to teach manners in the classroom. For some, the process comes naturally. For others, it never hurts to be reminded of ways that you can start teaching manners to preschoolers in your classroom.
The first thing to remember is that eyes are always on you.
As the teacher of the class (and the only adult), your students are always going to belooking at you as the model. That’s why it is so important for you to set a good example. Show them what is possible to achieve with good manners.
If you demonstrate kindness and respect to others around you, your students are going to pick up on it. When you act with kindness and respect, don’t be afraid to point it out. By explaining to your students what you’re doing, you can walk them through the process. As a result, it will be easier for them to transfer it into their own behavior.
Emphasize the fun of manners! Teaching polite words and actions doesn’t have to be boring. You can create engaging activities that will make students excited to learn manners. Remember, if they see it as a chore, they’ll be less likely to use the manners you teach.
Feel free to contact us to ask questions about teaching or to share your experience.
Manners To Go Makes This Process Easier Than Ever
With the Manners To Go Preschool curriculum, teaching manners in your classroom has never been easier. Our materials allow the process of learning to be fun and easy.
The beautifully illustrated images help children of all ages connect to manners. Activities, like role-playing, help spark creativity and actually make a difference.
Our lesson plans are flexible. With 10-, 20-, or 30-minute sessions, they can fit into any part of your day. Our curriculum is a great way to immerse your child in the world of manners.
Teaching manners to preschoolers is key in setting up their foundation. Establishing appropriate behaviors and a polite attitude can be simple and engaging. Not to mention, it will help the children grow into gracious adults!
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