Ideas and Lessons To Teach Manners in Your Preschool Classroom
Ideas and lessons to teach manners in your preschool classroom: Here is the good news, self-confidence can be a learned trait and it starts with awareness. Time and time again we receive phone calls from teachers asking for help with shyness and low self-esteem issues with their students . We want our children to move through life with ease, boundless opportunities, good friends, and adventure.
Eye contact is the basis of a self-confident child. There are many things you can do to assure a child has endless amounts of self-confidence. Let’s start with eye contact. Here is how you can incorporate this in your preschool classroom.
When you have the time, be fully present with your student. What a gift it is when you give a child (or anyone) your undivided attention.
Over the years we have noticed when you bring awareness to what confidence is and how it feels inside to have eye contact, the child makes a radical change, instantaneously. Try it, it works. Remember, your students are watching you.
Model eye contact and be fully present. Kneel down to their level. With this action, they are able to focus their attention on you. Making eye-to-eye contact with them makes it easier for your child to actually see you and to listen to what you have to say.
My most popular topic when teaching business etiquette in the workplace is The Art of the Human Connection. The art of having a conversation, is a lost “art”. We are so consumed with social media that often we are so buried in it we miss out on so many opportunities. Often, it is the first request I have from a human resource director to discuss the basic skills of conversation to their team.
Eye contact: This is a social skill that is so very important. By making eye contact, it shows someone that you are interested. It sends a message that you are confident. Point this out to your child. Explain why this is important. Take the opportunity to talk about confidence and how it feels. Get on their level. Literally! Get down on your knees if necessary and make eye contact with them.
Teach them to listen to others: Another important social skill is to listen. Tell them it is alright for there to be silence when having a conversation. This is the time to practice sharing-sharing the space to tell ideas and experiences.
Ask questions: By asking questions, you show others that you are interested in their experiences. Ask your child questions. Explain to them that you are having a conversation. Try this around the family meal. You are having family meals aren’t you!
Phone skills: The Wall Street Journal recently had an article about answering the phone. Remember when we were growing up and we took messages for our parents? With smart phones, this most likely is not happening. This was a great way to teach conversation skills. It is still important for your children to know how to answer a phone and converse. Practice with relatives. Turn on your speaker phone so your children can hear your conversations. Below you will find a link to the article.
Read a story. After reading a story, talk about it with your child. Did he like the story? What was his favorite part? Tell him how you liked or what you learned.
The above testimonial is from the Malcolm Pray Achievement center in Stamford, Connecticut.The mission of the Pray Achievement center is to inspire young people to establish goals and reach for them. To learn more about Malcolm Pray and the Achievement Center, click here.
Recently, the director, Marikay Satryano implemented the Manners To Go program and curriculum with stellar results. The teens loved the program and were so engaged and wanted to learn more.
1.Say “good morning” or “thank you”. Greetings are always nice to give and receive. Teach your students or children to make eye contact and say “hello” when meeting someone. When you are out and about during your daily activities, make it a practice to say “thank you” often. When someone holds the door or elevator for you, say ‘thank you”. As a parent or teacher you can show children what to to do by being the example. Remember, children are watching you. You can also point out why you expressed gratitude and how it feels to offer appreciation.
2. Excuse me: If you bump into someone, say “excuse me or I’m sorry”. Make eye contact so the other person know you are sincere.
3.Talk to your friends about the movie after its over, not during the film. When at the movies, throw away your snack containers as you leave the theater. Do not leave them behind. Don’t kick the chair in front of you.
4.Don’t cut in front of others while standing in line. Wait for your turn.
5.Don’t chew gum with your mouth open, and don’t make the popping noise. Only blow bubbles in private. Practicing proper etiquette in public places shows others that you are considerate. It also reinforces your own integrity for choosing to use the good manners you were taught.
6. When out for a day of shopping, put things back the way they were found. Refold the t-shirt you picked up. If you drop a pair of jeans, refold them and put the item back where you found it.
Children learn from the actions of others. Make it common practice in your home or classroom to show consideration for each family member, so that when they’re in public, it will seem natural.
Teaching children to be kind is key to being healthy, happy and having good manners. Doesn’t it warm your heart when you hear on the evening news that a child has been involved in helping out the community in some significant way? How about the moment when you observe your child talking to the newest student at school? Point these moments out to your children. Kindness lifts our spirits. This can be felt on both sides of the act. As you witness your child demonstrating kindness, point out the act to them and discuss it. This is a great time to talk to your children about The Golden Rule.
When you discuss the action of performing random acts of kindness there is a chance this will become “standard operating procedure” in your home.
Let your children know this is not about being kind just to receive a gesture of kindness. It is about the feeling it leaves inside when you perform an act of kindness.
Random acts of kindness can make our lives better and easier. Discuss this as a family. Have your children’s friendships improved? How about their relationships with teachers or siblings? Maybe just maybe they feel more confident and happier. I promise this will make for an interesting and positive conversation at your dinner table.
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My name is Lisa Richey, and I am the founder of Manners To Go™ . This brand has given me the honor of teaching manners to thousands of people around the world. The journey has taken me from Portland, Oregon to the Middle East. I believe that manners are not about judgment or rules. Manners are about self-interest. It really is about how using good manners makes you feel on the inside.
Manners Tips for “Taking Your Daughters and Sons To Work Day”
For over 22 years, the “Take Our Daughters and Sons To Work Program”, has partnered with corporations to host our nations children in the workplace. The program is designed for both boys and girls and exposes them to an office environment. To find out more, check out their website www.takeourdaughtersandsonstowork.org. The date for this year’s event is April 23.
I was lucky enough to experience this when I was in the corporate world. It was such an enlightening experience for us all. We went out to lunch together, shared our story with them and we got fresh new workers for the day.
Make arrangements with their teachers ahead of time. Fill out absentee paperwork if necessary.
Find out if your company has organized events for the children. If so discuss with your child ahead of time what will be happening during the day.
Brush up on the following social skills. Practice eye contact, a good handshake, and standing up for introductions.
Let your child know the importance of getting along with others.
Talk about ways to start a conversation. They will be meeting a lot of new children and your co-workers. To include others and to be included is very important. Some conversation starters: Where do you go to school? Do you play sports? How many pets do you have? What is your favorite movie?
Keep in mind your office dress code. Remember first impressions are very important. A conservative outfit is your best choice in this situation.
Remind your child to use their inside voice.
Whining is not allowed.
Often lunch is served. A few reminders for manners at the table: eat with your mouth closed, the napkin belongs in your lap and elbows off the table.
Have your child write thank you notes to the personnel that were involved in making it a special day.